(Beloved things (and people) can be held against a person. Sansa learned that from the Lannisters and so she began hiding even her emotions. But she has been opening up, bit by bit, for several years now. It's a healing process - not that she could ever forget what was done to her and her family - yet she can be stronger for it; not merely wounded by it.)

There is an grove of weirwoods where my family has prayed for generations. We call it the godswood for that reason. Maybe you are a bit like them? They can last through harsh weather and for years beyond counting.